People have different personalities, and while networking comes naturally to some, introverts may find it extremely draining and intimidating.
It may seem awkward at first, but the benefits of building genuine relationships with others go beyond your career progression.
I, myself, felt uncomfortable when I heard that I need to expand my network, need to connect with others or new people. But somehow, there is a shift in my perspective and I really cannot tell you enough how life-changing that shift is. I started really to grow and learn and be more successful in my life, not only in my career, feeling more fulfilled and more successful.
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Mindset Shift
Most people feel uncomfortable in networking or connecting because of the idea that you are looking for something for your benefit only. So there should be a shift in mindset.
Shift your mindset from “only receiving” to “giving back in return”.
It doesn’t have to be like that. It can be beneficial to both parties. It can be by listening to the person, letting them share stories with you, like a mental health partner. It doesn’t have to be complicated.
My tip? First, connect with the other person with curiosity. Get to know the person and show interest.
Second, which I heard from another career coach, think of it as giving others the gift of helping you or allowing them to help you. Because naturally, we have this sense of satisfaction when we help others.
Framework in Building Genuine Relationship
Share
People are wired to want to know that there are other people who want to have the same experience, who like the same thing or share the same goals. So when you connect with someone, look for all these things that you both have the same interest in. Join communities where these things you share together.
Value
Know your value. Ask yourself, how can add value to this person, because everyone has something to add to another person’s life.
With this, it is important to know your stuff, get clear about your achievements, accomplishments, etc. because those things will clarify what value you can bring.
Intention
The goal is building relationships not just simply a network. So the key practice that needs to be done here is to always follow up with your new connection. Reach out and stay connected.
Thank the person who helped you and offer help.
Final Thought
I know it is uncomfortable connecting to other people or strangers at first, but trust me. It will be beneficial in your whole life. Just take the time to find the right type of networking strategy for you and focus on making it a positive experience.
Want some tips that can help your job search? Read “How an Informational Interview Can Boost Your Job Search”
